today i feel it is important to speak to those who are not ready to come out yet - or perhaps don't quite know who they are or are questioning their identities. many of us have been made to believe that we don't have much value until we commit to an identity and come out. i don't believe that anyone should feel pressured or be expected to do this for anyone other than themselves. so for everyone who is not quite ready - your time will come - when YOU are ready. take your time to find yourself and above all - be patient with yourself... and know that even before you know for certain, no matter how long it takes or how many times you may change your mind - i am here for you... and for every day after.