it's national coming out day

so at this point in my life it may come as no surprise to any of you - that i am queer, trans, or multi-gendered... that i am a father, husband, artist, teacher, student, son, brother, friend - and above all that i am a human being. a human being fortunate enough to be of this time and in this place - a witness to tremendous courage, creativity, struggle, grace, and success - in my family, community, and work. coming out for me has been a continuous journey and practice and on this path i have often found and challenged my strength, endurance, passion, hatred, sorrow, joy, love, and forgiveness --- and every year i am reminded on this day that i am so grateful to have stuck around so i could experience what my life had in store for me.

today i feel it is important to speak to those who are not ready to come out yet - or perhaps don't quite know who they are or are questioning their identities. many of us have been made to believe that we don't have much value until we commit to an identity and come out. i don't believe that anyone should feel pressured or be expected to do this for anyone other than themselves. so for everyone who is not quite ready - your time will come - when YOU are ready. take your time to find yourself and above all - be patient with yourself... and know that even before you know for certain, no matter how long it takes or how many times you may change your mind - i am here for you... and for every day after.

love, dylan